Number One Reason Your Boyfriend/Girlfriend Left
Having an understanding of how relationships work can greatly improve how you get along with your significant other.
Your girlfriend or boyfriend left, but you’re more confused about why they left and need answers. Moreso, you are at a loss as to how to fix this situation.
First you need to understand the number one reason why they left. It’s not because you cheated, or they cheated or “the long distance thing isn’t working out.”
The number one reason why your sweetheart left is because they lost the attraction for you.
What is Attraction and How do you lose it.
Believe it or not, attraction has little to do with looks. It has more to do with how you make someone else feel about you. This is why sometimes you can see a couple and ask, “What does she see in him?” Simple…she’s attracted to him because of how he makes her feel.
You cannot choose to feel attracted to someone but can lose the initial attractive qualities by doing unattractive things or not doing the things that attracted the person to you in the first place.
Some attractive qualities are:
- being funny
- confidence
- being attractive to other women/men
- standing up for what you believe in
- assertiveness
When someone loses their attraction for you it is because you’ve probably displayed weak and unattractive behaviour and this often leads to your partner being unhappy with the relationship and even cheating.
Some unattractive qualities are:
- neediness
- unassertive
- no sense of humor
- bad social skills
- lack of confidence
What Does This Have To Do With Dealing With My Breakup?
Most people when faced with a breakup will display unattractive qualities such as neediness. They will beg, cry in the presence of their partner or call 10 times a day. These actions suggest neediness which is one of the biggest unattractive qualities that contribute to loss of attraction and consequently a breakup.
In the early stages of a breakup, once you recognize this then it is pretty much a matter of reversing these qualities and doing more of what you did at first to attract that person to you. Once passed that stage it requires a lot more.
As you probably guessed, when you wait longer and longer to repair your relationship, it is going to become harder. But it is still possible to get your ex back if you use the techniques in the Magic of Making Up which are to be used for this reason.
On another note, if you work on the attraction thing, you’ll most often find that you don’t want your ex back anymore.
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Bullshit!…other things break up relationships that are external to it…true attraction is a mjor component but it is not the whole story or the number one factor..For myself i must say that i am extremely confident,very funny,never needy,have never begged or pleaded(not even once)stand by my own belief and values,assertive yet due to long ditsance i lost someone to someone else because my lady could not cope without an end in sight to the distance and being apart.So much for your theory
Sure bob, there are other factors but it all boils down to the loss of attraction.
Your lady rationalizes the situation by saying she “could not cope without an end in sight to the distance and being apart” but people don’t choose who they’re attracted to.
Someone else sparked an attraction that she couldn’t resist. You don’t have to do something wrong to lose your special someone. Distance in this case played a huge part in the loss of attraction.
Try reading David DeAngelo’s Attraction Isn’t A Choice.