True Blood is one of my favorite television shows right now. I’ve been following the characters since the show started and they’re very interesting.
One of the episodes entitled Spellbound, was particularly interesting in that they showed two scenes that deals with the issue of break ups and how the couple was affected by each others reaction.
To give a little background on the characters and what’s going on with the relationship, Jessica is a young vampire who has a hunger for blood. She begins to feel as if she can’t be in a monogamous relationship with Hoyt because she is constantly sucking on the necks of strange men without Hoyt’s knowledge.
There is a little something else though, which Jessica doesn’t want Hoyt to know. The relationship is being threatened by Jessica’s attraction for Hoyt’s best friend since childhood, a young stud named Jason.
Hoyt is a human, known as a fangbanger, because he let’s a vampire suck on his neck and has sex with one. He learns to accept that vampires are different and has made some sacrifices in the name of the relationship.
Hoyt begins to feel like he’s losing Jessica who is beginning to lose interest also.
In the episode, they show two scenes that play out the break up. One is a dream that Jessica has and the other is the actual break up.
Jessica’s Dream
The clip contains coarse language and adult themes.
In the video, Jessica imagines going home to Hoyt, who immediately upon seeing her, starts to get on her nerves. Although Hoyt knows his relationship is falling apart he starts telling her how much he was worried about her and Jessica is getting more annoyed by the second.
Hoyt is giving Jessica attention that she doesn’t deserve and Jessica is well aware of this. In relationships when you give someone attention they do not deserve, you’re essentially giving them control of the relationship. So the direction of Hoyt and Jessica’s relationship here is going to be whatever Jessica wants.
When Jessica tells Hoyt that the relationship is really over, Hoyt breaks down and displays almost all seven of the things you shouldn’t do when going through a break up.
Jessica can hardly believe that he’s crying, saying things like he would die if he can’t have her, apologizing for things he said and promising to do things he doesn’t believe in (drinking her blood everyday). If she had even considered giving him a chance, she no longer wanted to and she gets so irritated she ends up… (well it was just a dream anyway).
What Really Happened…(The Actual Break Up)
The clip contains coarse language and adult themes.
In this scene, the real break up, Hoyt’s reaction is much different and when Jessica tells him they’re breaking up, he questions it. Although Hoyt behaves like an ass and starts an argument (not recommended if you’re in this situation), he doesn’t give up his power and Jessica respects him for it.
In this situation, Hoyt, the dumpee, agrees with the break up and with that he still has a chance. And although he managed to turn the tables on Jessica, he doesn’t go about it in the right way though.
The Lessons
The two main lessons you can learn from this True Blood episode about dealing with break ups (if you want to get your ex back) are summed up below.
- Don’t do these 7 things.
- Agree with the break up. But part ways amicably. This is actually recommended by T. W. Jackson, the author of The Magic of Making Up.
If you’re reading this then you’re either a True Blood fan like me or you either know that a break up in inevitably coming and you want to know how to deal with it. Hopefully, this article shines some light on how you could deal with your break up and possibly get your girlfriend or boyfriend back.
The thought of being single can be a dreaded situation for most people. It’s one of the fears that people have when they’re faced with a break up.
No one wants to be alone but just because you’re single doesn’t mean that you have to be lonely.
In fact, being single can be (although not as fulfilling), just as enjoyable as being in a relationship.
Here’s a very short video I found that highlights just how you can fall in love with being single.
Now I know since you’re visiting this blog, you’re not here because you want to be single. You’re here because you want to mend a broken relationship.
Getting back with your ex isn’t as simple as talking to them about it and them agreeing. In most cases, it is recommended that you go through a period of No Contact, which incidentally is just like being single.
So hopefully, you can see the connection between doing no contact and the video above and how it can possibly help your chances of getting back together with your ex.
For one, it improves who you are as a person and you no longer feel pressured by society to always be in a relationship.
If you need a plan of action for getting an ex back, I’d recommend you checking out The Magic of Making Up. I’ve reviewed it right here on my blog so you can decide if it’s for you.
Please let me know what you think about the video in the comments below.
The No Contact rule is very important when you are going through a break up. If only it was that easy.
No contact is usually hard when you keep thinking about your ex. You start to wonder whether they miss you, what they’re doing (or getting into) and who they’re doing it with.
Before you know it you’re dialing your ex’s number and at the same time rationalizing your need for contact.
No contact IS hard and can make you feel even more miserable than the actual break up. In this article I’m going to show you how to do no contact with an ex and still feel good doing it.
But first, why do we need to do no contact again?
Why Is No Contact So Important?
No contact is important for both you and your ex.
By doing no contact, you are communicating (ironic, huh?) to your ex that you are comfortable with the break up. No contact improves you as a person.
This works better than constantly being around them asking for another chance or getting in their way when they really want to be left alone. This type of behavior tells your ex that they are the ones who ultimately decides whether or not you should be together. Since they already chose to break up, then they’d usually stick with that decision because begging and pleading can be quite annoying.
Additionally, giving yourself a break from your ex can help you get your emotions together and help you heal. You first need to get over your ex in order to be ready to get your ex back.
For your ex, you doing no contact can be beneficial to them as it gives them time to miss you. It doesn’t matter if your ex left you for someone else. It’s either no contact or constantly being in their way.
In addition to doing no contact you will also need a plan of action for getting your ex back. In other words, what do you do once you’re ready? I suggest reading T.W. Jackson’s The Magic of Making Up. You can see a review of his guide here.
Considerations
There are some situations that will make it even harder to really do no contact. These are situations in which you will inevitably have to come into contact with your ex.
While this isn’t what we really want, as soon as you understand how no contact works to help you get your ex back, you’ll see how this can be turned into a good thing.
- You have kids together
- You live together
- You work together
- You go to the same church/gym/school etc.
However, even if you are in one of these situations, it is best if you try to avoid all contact with your ex until you can truly get over your ex and get yourself ready for a reconciliation.
How To Do No Contact (And Enjoy Doing It)
No contact involves improving yourself and getting over your ex (in other words emotionally preparing yourself for reconciliation).
This isn’t so easy to do if you’re constantly thinking about your ex and spending all your time by yourself (at home watching tv or on Facebook).
Here are some suggestions on how you should be spending this no contact period to really achieve your goals and enjoy it.
1. Remove All Reminders of Your Ex
By removing all the reminders of your ex, you will lessen the amount of time spent thinking about them.
Get a box and put all the pictures, gifts and anything else that reminds your of your ex. Seal the box and put it in a storage facility or give a trusted friend to hold on to. Or simply store it in the attic. You don’t want to see the box either.
2. Have Fun With Friends
Having fun with friends can lessen the amount of time spent thinking about your ex as well. It’s much better if these friends aren’t mutual friends of both you and your ex.
Go to the beach, the club, a ballgame, take a trip somewhere or whatever fun stuff you can think of. Try to reduce the amount of time you spend alone.
3. Improve Your Appearance
Have a new haircut you want to try? Then do it. If you wore your hair long, then cut them short – but you have to be sure that you’re doing this for YOU and not for your ex.
Hit the gym and tighten up those abs or lose a couple pounds or put on some muscle. You can even do this with a friend and enjoy yourself even more.
It would also be a great idea to replace your old clothes with new ones.
4. Learn a New Skill
Now is a great time to take up a hobby or learn something new. Not only will this take your mind off your ex by occupying your brain but you will also become passionate about something other than your relationship.
Suggestions:
- Take a dance class
- learn an instrument / or start a band
- learn how to DJ
- learn a sport
- Take a self defense class or learn karate
- Learn how to cook an exotic meal
Kayaking in the great outdoors
Immersing yourself in the great outdoors not only allows you to meet other great people; the fresh air and busy environment is good for your health and it keeps your brain busy allowing you to take your mind of your ex.
You can go hiking with a hiking club or mountain biking.
Or go kayaking on a lake or river.
Whatever you do, get out of the house as much as possible and have some fresh air.
6. Date Other People
This is a very powerful move. If you’re wondering whether this will hurt your chances of getting your ex back then you’re still thinking of your ex as the one who decides whether you should have a relationship or not.
You should date other people while on no contact. Dating other people can communicate to your ex that you have moved on. It let’s them know that they might have lost out on a great person since other people also want to be with you.
This can get them thinking that they might have made a mistake. Once you’ve decided to do no contact, you can start dating other people.
In a case where, as mentioned above, you cannot avoid not getting into contact with your ex, this can work out well for you.
Also, even though you may want your ex back now, you may meet someone great and decide that you want to keep dating that person instead. So whether you get your ex back or you decide to date someone else, you’ll end up happy.
How To Get Your Ex Back With No Contact
It’s great knowing how to do no contact and everything but what you really want is to get your ex back. No contact alone won’t help you achieve this goal.
T.W. Jackson has a great plan of action called The Magic of Making Up in which he guides you through the process of getting back with your ex – what you should do and what you shouldn’t as well as how everything works.
Jackson’s guide has helped lots of people all over the world with their relationships and can help you as well. You can read my review of Magic of Making Up where I tell you about what’s in the guide and how it can help.
The Magic of Making Up + No Contact can better your chances of getting your ex back than if you did nothing at all.
Today’s blog post is going to be really short. Just something to think about.
I just saw this quote on a forum and it got me thinking… Isn’t this the same concept you should be following in order to get your ex back?
Here’s the quote:
If you want your ball to bounce back first you have to throw it away real hard.
Just think about that for a second.
Reminds me of the saying:
If you want something, let it go,
If it comes back its yours,
If it doesn’t, it never was.
They are both saying the same thing and they’re both right.
If you want to get your ex back you have to give them enough space so that it makes it easier for them to come back to you. This is so much easier than trying trying to convince them that they should come back.
If you haven’t as yet, check out my recent review of T.W. Jackson’s Magic of Making Up.
I found this short video a while ago and would like to share it.
Many of the problems couples encounter come from misunderstanding what the other wants. Perhaps, if we understood how our partners tick, there would be less fights and less breakups and possibly more chances to reconcile.
Check out this video for me that explains how to understand what women want.
How To Get Her Back For Good is a guide to getting your ex-girlfriend back into your life and is written by George Karanastasis, M.D.
George Karanastasis lays out a guide for men to follow based on not just his study and understanding of human interpersonal relationships and the fact that he helped over 12oo men but also draws on his own personal experience with a breakup he had with his significant other.
The guide is strictly for men and his focused, paint by numbers guide beats most other relationship repair guides that are written for both sexes.
Will This Guide Help You?
The way in which How To Get Her Back For Good is different from most relationship repair books is that George understands that every relationship is different. Every relationship has different circumstances so there needs to be different approaches to solving the problem.
It doesn’t matter if:
- you were in a long term relationship
- in a short term relationship
- in an ultra short term relationship
- she cheated on you
- you cheated on her
- you have kids
- you have a pet
- you work together
- etc
George doesn’t give you an all-in-one solution for fixing your relationship. Instead, depending on what your situation is (as in the examples above), there is a plan of action that you must take to repair your relationship. For example, part of the solution for most couples will include doing no contact and for others, limited contact in cases where you share a home or work together.
After reading How To Get Her Back For Good, you’ll immediately understand why your breakup happened and depending on your situation you’ll have the necessary plan of action to go get your girl back.
Without understanding the psychology behind the relationship you wouldn’t have the mindset to put into action the methods he lays out for getting your girlfriend back.
George’s book also demonstrates through the use of case studies how his methods have worked for others and how you can go about implementing them easily. These methods aren’t based on tricks, manipulation or mind games. Instead they’re based on good ol’ fashioned human behavior and psychology ensuring that they will provide more than just a temporary fix for your situation.
If you’re a guy who values your relationship and really want to get that special girl back in your arms then I highly recommend How To Get Her Back for Good.
Did your fiance break off the engagement? I’m guessing since you’re reading this that means that you still want him back and you still want to get married.
And although I don’t understand the circumstances, I think it’s definitely worth it to win your fiance back.
You see, for a couple to come this far to the point where you’re engaged to be married says quite a lot. I’m willing to bet that none of your past relationships reached to this stage and that’s what makes what you and your fiance have special.
So how do you win your fiance back and get that wedding you deserve?
Again, it depends on what the circumstances are that caused the fall out in the first place.
The first thing you need to do is decide how much impact the problem would have if you still got married. It doesn’t make sense for you to ignore something that may later jeopardize your marriage.
If this is the case, you can still get your fiance back but you would need to fix the relationship first and take it slower in regards to getting married.
The next step is to communicate with your fiance. Your fiance has a reason why he broke it off with you and that needs to first be resolved between the both of you.
Once you have identified the core problems, you can begin to share your thoughts. This means both verbalizing your own feelings and listening to your fiance’s concerns.
Keep in mind that there is a chance you may not win your fiance back. However, if you would like to improve your chances of getting back your fiance, TW Jackson has a great plan of action in his Magic of Making Up guide.
I have read it and there’s definitely a lot of solid advice in there that applies to married couples, engaged couple or if you’re just dating.
Kim Kardashian recently broke up for a second time with her pro-footballer boyfriend Reggie Bush.
From E!:
Sources confirm to E! News that the reality star and her pro footballer boyfriend have split yet again.
Reggie always had trouble with the spotlight, our source tells us.While Kim’s in South Beach shooting the second season of Kourtney and Khloé Take Miami for three weeks, Reggie’s been out and about on the NYC scene.
So what was the issue this time around?
Kim’s fame and crazy busy schedule have been an ongoing source of conflict for the couple, who reunited last August after a quick breakup.
Reggie always had trouble with the spotlight, our source tells us.
Such is the case with celebrity romances. How they deal with it isn’t usually any different from the everyday person.
So how did Kim Kardashian handle this?
According to some tweets made my Kim via her twitter page, she was lounging in Miami on her boat getting tanned. She posted pics that showed her having a good time with her sisters.
Is there a lesson in here somewhere?
Although break ups do hurt, many people would make any of these 7 mistakes which can end up doing more bad than good.
Instead it is important to catch the other half off guard by doing stuff they won’t expect you to do. Like going out with friends and enjoying yourself, go shopping, go to the beach or even casually dating someone else (if you were the one who got dumped).
The important thing to remember here is to never allow your ex to see you as needy or desperate. Allowing them to think that you cannot be happy without them gives them the power to decide what they should do about the relationship and if they were the one who broke up with you, then chances are they’re going to continue on with their life.
Also, allowing them to see what a fun person you are and how you handle life’s problems with a smile would only make them second guess their decision to break it off with you.
Want to be able to handle your break ups like Kim Kardashian did? Download the Magic of Making Up and bulletproof your relationship.
Are you desperate to get your ex back?
Breaking up with someone who you’ve bonded with and grown very close to is never easy.
It’s like losing a part of you. Its natural to feel desperate to get back with that special someone but it isn’t the right state of mind in which you should be if you ever want to get back with your ex.
The reason for this is simple.
Being desperate can usually lead to undesirable behavior such as stalking, calling all the time, professing your undying love for someone etc. all of which says that you’re needy.
The last thing your ex wants is to see you being needy. Subconsciously, this tells your ex that they have all the power to make whatever decision they want and someone with a more positive outlook will more than likely get their attention.
You know the saying, people always want what they can’t have? Well, its true.
Being desperate takes all the challenge away for your ex and makes it too easy for them to get back into your life.
So instead of being desperate to get back with your ex, try playing hard to get. Not that hard that you push them away but hard enough to create a challenge for them.
Playing hard to get will let your ex know that you have a life and the world doesn’t revolve around them. Even though you’re eager to get back with your ex, they wouldn’t know and this is a good enough challenge in itself for them as they become confuses and likely curious wondering if you’re still interested.
Of course, show your ex just enough interest for them to always keep wanting you the way you want them.
In The Magic of Making Up, TW Jackson lets you know when you will know the right time to take your ex back. Don’t jump the gun because you feel desperate, play a little hard to get and you’ll have your ex confused and curious about you.
Yesterday, I posted about how to tell if your girlfriend is a psycho.
Yes, there are always two sides to a story so I’m now posting the video for the ladies on how to tell if your boyfriend is a psycho.
Again, this is a serious topic that a 2 minute video can’t possibly go into all the details about but hopefully it will make you think.
